Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities

12-0807 Playing Well With Others

978-0-937609-58-3 - $19.95

“Plenty of resources tell you how to find your local BDSM community, but very few help you once you get there. This book is packed with tips about what to expect, how to communicate, and how to behave in different kinky situations.” —Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge

While plenty of other books explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book devoted to kink culture  - the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community. The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of “sexual sherpas” with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom. Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the “community” aspect of the kink lifestyle.


Lee Harrington is an internationally known spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and award-winning author and editor on human sexuality and sacred experience. He has been an academic and an adult film performer, is a kink/bondage expert, and has been blogging about sex and spirituality since 1998. Read more about Lee at
Mollena (Mo) Williams is a native New Yorker, performer, actor, award-winning writer and BDSM educator. She is International Ms. Leather 2010 and Ms. SF Leather 2009. Consciously kinky since 1993 and active in leather and BDSM since 1996, she travels extensively, speaking on topics including kink, BDSM, power exchange relationships and negotiating it all safely. Read more about Mollena at The Perverted Negress,

© Janet Hardy 2019